How many times have you answered with the words “I’m fine” when someone asks you what’s wrong? You know in your heart you are nowhere near fine, yet you say those two little words just for the sake of getting them to leave you alone. Even if you feel that the other person should know what they did to you, that doesn’t mean they know for sure. You might not realize it, but you are essentially destroying your relationship by not communicating with the other person. Consider the following as to why you shouldn’t use these two words ever.
1. Undermines communication.
Communication is an important element to any relationship. It lets you and your mate express yourselves in a way that is meaningful and rewarding. You can learn about the other person more than what you might ever have thought possible. When you cannot be honest about how you really feel, you end up shutting down any type of healthy conversation.
2. Prolong the problem.
At this point in time, your significant other knows that when you say you are fine, you aren’t. It is like a poison that seeps in and takes control of your relationship. Your significant other sites there driving themselves nuts trying to figure out what they did wrong and how they can fix it. Before you know it, they are frustrated and stressed out because they haven’t got a clue what’s going on. You cannot fix the problem if you don’t know what the problem is.
3. Encouraging a repeat offense.
If you want the one that you care about to stop doing all of the things that irritate the crap out of you, it starts with you going out there and telling them what it is that they are doing wrong so they can help make things right. If you aren’t able to let the other person know what’s bugging you, how can you expect to be able to communicate with a group of people? The cycle isn’t going to stop unless you step up to the plate and make it stop.
To make something happen in your life, you have to make the effort to do something about it and stand up for what you believe in.