Parenting is one hard mission. Don’t you agree?! You never had courses in how to raise a child, you don’t know what to do nor to say, you have no idea how to behave or react…you are lost! It’s important to keep in mind: what you say to your child affects him forever.
There are 5 things you should never say to your child:
Great Job Yes, we’ve always wanted to her that sentence and we always repeat it to our children. However, studies have shown that children are getting dependent on the affirmation you are giving him/her, instead of focusing on the motivation behind it. Try “it was a nice way” instead or anything similar.
Practice Makes It Perfect You mean good, we know! But by saying this sentence, your child will assume that it’s ok to make the same mistake over and over again, because that way he’s mastering the art of how not to do it. The message you are conveying is being translated oppositely.
I’m Ashamed of You Kids do things we never teach them to do or to say and they can sometimes exhibit some really bad behavior. Despite this fact, never say to your child that you’re ashamed of him. This sentence is extremely negative. It’s better to say “Although what you did is wrong and I feel bad, I still love you”.
I’ll Do It For You Doing it for him/her is not a solution nor the best way to learn how to be independent. It’s difficult sometimes to control your nerves when your child is having trouble executing a task. However say “let’s do it together”, that way he/she knows that you’re helping not doing the entire work.
If You Do This, I’ll Give You That
Don’t trade with your child, especially over food. Kids love it when their parents offer certain rewards, yet bargain is not a way to use with a child because he/she doesn’t see the relation, rather the fine end.
Parents are humans, they make mistakes and learn from them. Don’t panic!