For some people, fairytales do come true. Whether you dream of a big extravagant wedding or a small cozy one, you should make sure the groom is just right for you.
The closer you come to that big moment called marriage, the more second thoughts you have. To help you out, we’ll give you the five signs that show he is the one for you.
The most important part of any relationship, especially a long-term one, is communication. Couple councilors and coaches will never get tired of repeating how vital communication is for the relationship. If you can’t feel comfortable sharing your worries, concerns, thoughts, fears, and feelings with your significant other then he shouldn’t be waiting for you down the aisle. If he doesn’t trust you enough or is still shy about communicating with you about anything and everything and if you two don’t really “talk” together, don’t even plan the wedding.
Even though opposites do attract sometimes, at the end of the day the birds of the same flock fly together. It’s okay to have differences and disagree on different topics but if you don’t have the same values and goals when it comes to vital issues, your marriage is most likely bound to fail and you better not get into that mess. Your views on religion, sex, kids or other issues that are important to one or both of you should be discussed before saying I do. If you want to have ten kids and he wants none, it will not work. If you want four but he prefers two, you can work it out. Think thoroughly and be frank with yourself.
Again, if you can’t agree on a hobby or passion, soon enough you will get bored from each other and find nothing to do together once the passionate flame dies out. You don’t have to love every single hobby he has and he doesn’t have to enjoy the activities you like. But you two should at least have some common interests and activities you already or would like to try. Routine is boring and boredom is detrimental to the relationship. Be open for possibilities and make sure there’s a common ground between you both.
It comes without saying, but if he doesn’t love you and respect, in action as well as words, you better leave now. If he disrespects around his friends or family, don’t give him excuses. A man who loves his partner treats he well and is even proud of her. Your future husband should not be ashamed of you and you should not be ashamed of him. When it comes to marriage, blind love is chaotic and chaos leads to divorce. And remember, he who abuses you before he marries you might kill you afterwards. Be sure you love him and loves you.
When you think about marrying him, you’re not just trying how his last name sounds next to yours. And you are not imaging the white gown you’re going to wear on your wedding day and you did not start writing the guest lists. When you think about marrying him, you’re thinking about spending the rest of your life with him, getting those first wrinkles next to him, building a family (or not) with him… If all you can think about is the bouquet, then you’re not ready for marriage and he’s not the one for you.